How to ask
If I go for a job interview and get the job, and want the tarot to help me decide whether to accept the position, I’d avoid asking questions that beg for a yes or no answer.
What do I need to know about accepting this position? or How will accepting this job affect my life? are both healthier questions than Must I take this job?
Here’s a question I’m sure many tarot decks have been asked. Should I break up with my boyfriend?
A better question would be What do I need to know about my relationship with Ted? This question covers a lot of bases, and allows the tarot to generously help by giving you all the information you need to make an informed decision, without sacrificing your autonomy.
Another question. Is my wife cheating on me?
Again, What do I need to know about my relationship with my wife? is good. If the tarot understands it would be in everyone’s best interests to expose an affair, it will do so. If not, it will empower you to make changes. Those changes will lead you to making choices that free you of an unfaithful partner, with or without knowledge of their affairs.
The difference is subtle: Does Susan love me? (and before you ask this of the tarot you should ask yourself why you’re not asking Susan directly) is best rephrased as Please show me what I may know about Susan’s feelings for me at this time? Yes, it’s longer, but it’s an open-ended question that shows respect and reverence for all, including the tarot.
I aim to keep my conscience and karma clean. As tempting as it is to use a tarot deck as one’s pocket-sized private investigator, or teeny-weeny spy cam, I don’t, and I won’t. When the tarot decides to divulge details only a fly on the wall sees, it’s doing so for good, upstanding reasons. It knows you’ll engage with the information responsibly and wisely.
A magic carpet ride?
Abiding by these principles makes the tarot my greatest ally and my greatest teacher. There is no mischief or miscommunication. It wants to help, wants to see me mature, heed the guidance, do the work.
The tarot is not a shortcut or a quick fix. Some experiences, as unpleasant as they are, must be lived. Perhaps we’ll never know why we were prevented from taking the safer back roads, but that’s what the word mystery is for.
Drawing tarot cards enriches and eases our journey, but it is not a magic carpet ride. We’ve got to take the elevator, bus, train, drive the car, walk on our own two feet, like everybody else.
What it does do is get us neatly dressed and to the station on time, aware that farther up the line the view is going to change, we’ll meet new people, and we must put our best foot forward.
I know, as I learn and evolve, I’ll make adjustments, changes, to what I’ve written here. Stagnancy and comfort zones aside, life keeps us on our toes, that’s for sure.
Lots of love to you, and thank you for reading…
all three posts. You’re a star.